Do we spend to much time looking in the mirror and focussing on all of the things we don’t like about ourselves?
Do you find yourself talking to other people about all the things you don’t like about yourself and how you wish you could change it?
How many times have you heard the same person tell you how they wish they had bigger boobs and can’t wait till they can afford to get a boob job? or a smaller nose? big bushy eyebrows?
We all have things we don’t like about ourselves but do you embrace your flaws or do you obsess about fixing them? Many of us have trouble embracing the things we perceive to be imperfections. If you spend to much time focussing on everything you hate about yourself you are only drawing to your body, mind and spirit – negative energy and sadly this can manifest into poor health.
Learning to love yourself takes some time but it is possible here are 8 tips to help you embrace your flaws and learn to appreciate yourself more:
1. YOU DESERVE LOVE
One of the top reasons to embrace your flaws is because you deserve love. Many times flaws are associated with negative emotions and harboring those negative emotions can prevent us from fully accepting and loving our flaws and ourselves for who we are. To love ourselves completely we have to accept and appreciate ourselves without conditions, physical or emotional imperfections and all.
2. YOU DESERVE TO BE COMFORTABLE WITH YOURSELF
Accepting your flaws means that you are totally comfortable with yourself which is a beautiful thing. I’m sure you’ve seen plenty of people both men and women who aren’t the best dancers or the best looking but they totally own their flaws and are comfortable with how they move and look and it shows. Of course it takes time to be that confident or maybe they’re faking it, either way, feeling completely comfortable with yourself is an awesome feeling. You only have to channel Aussie Actress and Comedian Rebel Wilson for some inspiration when it comes to becoming comfortable with who you truly are.
3. YOU CAN’T CONTROL EVERYTHING
You can’t control everything. Is it really possible for you or anyone to correct every single flaw that you or someone else see’s? Of course not! It doesn’t matter how much time or money you have, your flaws or what you perceive as flaws make you who you are. You were born with different features and traits for a reason, not so you can pick yourself apart and spend your life trying to change or cover those things up.
4. OTHER PEOPLE LOVE YOUR FLAWS
Accept your flaws just because you are not happy with the way you look remember someone admires that characteristic about you whether you know it or not! So you might have red hair and freckles – guess what there are people out there who only dream about looking actually the way you are {so embrace who you are}. What you perceive as a flaw is something that someone loves or would pay to have!
5. YOUR PERCEPTION IS YOUR REALITY
Have you ever thought about whether what you see as a flaw is just your perception and not the world’s? Of course your opinion matters and I’m not suggesting that you only listen to others because other people can have distorted perceptions and opinions too – just look at the magazine industry they only ever seem to share one very skinny, petite body image! Consider whether your imperfection is really even a flaw. Even if you have a feature that isn’t necessarily common, don’t spend your days obsessing about ways you wish you could change it and making yourself feel down.
6. DIFFERENT IS GOOD
Part of accepting your flaws is realising that being different sets you apart from others, and that is a good thing. Imagine if we all had the same nose, eyes, lips and body-how boring would that be. Oh really would you want to go out with someone that looks just like you? We are all so different body, mind and spirit – remember there is so much more to us than our physical self. Focus on all the other areas of yourself and realise that you are a spiritual being that is much more than this superficial world we live in.
7. NO ONE IS PERFECT
No one is perfect and it’s so true! Even the people you think are so perfect really who are the cover of magazines struggle with the way they looks and can point out all of their flaws.
8. BE UNSTOPPABLE
Want more motivation to embrace your flaws? Ok, think about this, has having a flaw ever stopped anyone from achieving their goals or living the life they want? There are so many musicians, scientists, business people, models, actresses, etc. that had doors slammed in their face due to having a perceived flaw, a problem that someone else had with them and perhaps they were aware of too, but they still moved forward and achieved their goals. J.K. Rowling, Marilyn Monroe are just some of the many women who were unstoppable and you can be too!
I hope you realise just how special you are and that your life is what you decide to make of it and you can choose whatever direction you want to go. You are limitless and unique, love yourself for who you are exactly as you are now. Embrace yourself and all that you are right here right now. Don’t spend your time beating yourself up and having negative thoughts about yourself. Try to start to love yourself just like you would expect your loved one closest to you to do!
My challenge to you is to now focus on positive self talk. When you look in the mirror and see something you don’t like stop the inner negative self talk there and turn it around with the power of your inner belief that you are beautiful just the way you are. You don’t need to wait to reach a certain physical cosmetic surgery transformation to be beautiful you have to realise and accept that you are beautiful just the way you are right here right now!
When you talk about yourself instead of focussing on all of the things you don’t like about yourself and that you want to change. Focus on things like I am exercising to get fit, to feel healthy and to help with having more energy. Instead of the usual out loud self talk of I am exercising to loose all the fat of my stomach, bums and thighs that I hate. You can make a real difference to your life by choosing positive words and energy over negative words and energy. If you are feeling a bit flat and haven’t been your happiest lately it could be that all of the negative self talk both in and out – plus continually beating yourself up is slowly grinding you down!
Be Happy with who you are right here right now.
Spa it girl xoxo
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