Let’s face it – we can all spend to much time worrying about things that are out of control, in the past and can’t be change, or things that we think might happen but we don’t want to happen.
All of this worrying can’t start to make you feel very anxious and even stressed…so with that in mind, here’s what you should try to stop worrying about today……
1. Others’ opinion about your life, signature style, dreams, etc. Everyone has different values and different perspectives about what a fulfilling and happy life looks like. While they may be genuinely happy living how they want to live, it doesn’t mean that you will be as well or should feel badly if you don’t follow their path. Let go of worrying about what others think of the path you have chosen, and instead focus your energy on your interest, your heart and your mind.
2. Trying to be like everyone else. As much as our culture appears to cultivate originality and independence, it also subconsciously leads us to be curious about what everyone else is doing via our uber-connected world. As much as people try to make their own way, they often stay within the parameters of what is acceptable by their peer group. So ask yourself, if what you are doing is because you are passionate about it or because you are too afraid to do what you really want to do?
3. Trying to do something simply to stand out and gain attention. On the flip side of #2, our culture tends to applaud ridiculousness, shock and awe tactics and baseless behaviour. In other words, as long as it gains eyeballs, a good laugh and a few more ‘likes’, the urge is to go forward with the behaviour. Whether or not it’s relevant or in line with our values often times is tossed aside as secondary. While there will always be people who stand out, make sure you’re standing out for something you believe in and would be proud to have on your resume when you look back upon it years from now.
4. Anything that is beyond your control.
5. Anything you don’t want to happen. Instead of worrying about what you don’t want to happen, use that energy to focus on what you want to create. Use that energy to create beautiful, amazing moments for yourself and those you love. Use that energy to dive into projects that propel your dreams, leaving no time to worry about what you don’t want to take place.
6. Unnecessary social media time zappers. For example: checking status updates of people who aren’t actual, genuine friends, or wondering how many ‘friends’ or ‘followers’ you have. Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, and Pinterest can easily waste time that could be better used strengthening friendships in real time, practicing a new craft that we want to master or actually learning how to take pictures instead of simply repinning them. Live your life. Don’t be a spectator of others’ lives.
7. How other people live or how much money they make. Keeping up with the Jones or Buchanans or whatever family lives down the street from you is something you should not spend another minute thinking about. How someone is able to live the life they appear to be loving is none of your business. Be happy for them and then go about living the life of your dreams according to your desires, passions, and purpose instead of what society dedicates you should adhere to.
8. What others may {or may not} be saying about you when you’re not around. When we welcome people into our lives or work with people on a daily basis, we tend to interpret their looks, questions or comments in certain ways based on what has happened in past similar situations. More likely than not, when those people leave our company, they probably aren’t thinking about us at all, and if they are and it’s not kind, they aren’t people you should worry about because they don’t deserve to be in your life.
9. The number on the clothing label. The size of a dress or pair of jeans is not something to worry about. Since various brands involve themselves in vanity sizing and each brand has their own measurements for certain sizes, a 10 from one designer may be an 8 in another. In other words, live healthy, and then dress your body to flatter your best assets regardless of the number on the label.
10. Your life plan going exactly as you had mapped out when you were younger. Setting life goals is a very good idea but hanging on to a life map that doesn’t align with your full potential is like hanging on to a tradition that is no longer celebrating something worthy of being celebrated. Always have goals, but then adjust them as you get to know yourself and the opportunities that are afforded to you. And most importantly, have confidence that you will reach the target. It just may not look like what you had expected. In fact, it most likely will exceed the limited perspective you had when you were younger.
“Don’t Worry Be Happy – Trust in the Universe & Yourself” Spa it girl xoxo
Source: The Simply Luxurious Life / Pic: Vogue